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'I'm orange and you're apple, but above all we're fruit.' It's one of the classic lines from the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding. My Big Fat Greek Wedding deals with the encounters of Greek culture and American culture. The leading role named Toula though was born and lived in America, however, she was set in a Greek family background, which made her look rather different from other students in clothes, food, language, or something else all through her teens. When 30 years old, Toula appeared dirty and fat, and miserably unmarried, which worried her parents a lot. It's was after Toula decided to have a change that she broke her stubborn father's rule to study computer technology at college and then work at a travel agency instead of spending the rest of her life in her father's restaurant. Also, learning how to make up and changing wearing styles turned Toula into a charming lady. And soon she fell in love with a handsome American man called Ian, teaching at college. But their relationship was no smooth since great culture shock existed between the two completely different families. Toula was told again and again that all nice greek girls are supposed to do 3 things in life: marry great boys, make great babies, and feed everyone. Also, great boys only refer to Greek guys. Toula's father, a totally religious Greek always considering Greek to be the most brilliant and accentuating that Greek is the birthplace of the world's culture, didn't want Toula to leave him, on the other hand, urged Toula to marry, of course, a good Greek man. In his eyes, a good boy must come to ask for his permission before dating his daughter. Besides, Ian's appearance even eating habits did violence to Greek traditions. Ian was a vegetarian, which was almost unbelievable to Greeks who would never discomfort their stomach and will manage to be always full even until the last day of the world. Toula had 27 cousins while Ian only 2. Even the meeting of both parents ran into lots of trouble and dilemma. When Ian's parents came into Toula's house, they were so surprised to see such a large number of invited relatives. At the party, Ian's parents remained dizzy and all at a loss. For many times, Ian was tricked and laughed at for his little knowledge of the Greek language. Even though full of challenge, Ian and Toula went through all barriers, won their parents' acquiescence, and married as Toula's father demanded, at a Greek church, in the manner of a traditional Greek Wedding. Yeah, as Toula's father said at the wedding, I'm orange and you're apple, but above all we're fruits. Toula and Ian came from two absolutely different backgrounds, but they ended up with a happy marriage. Cultural encounters ran through the whole film. However, a happy ending was shown on the screen. I figure that it indicates a view that cultural encounters were unavoidable and sometimes rather suffering, but to some degree, cultural diversity made the world colorful, interesting, and joyful. In addition, cultural shocks are unnecessarily unable to solve. No one, even in the same region, the same country, the same city, the same family, is completely the same as anyone else, that's to say, the difference comes into existence anytime anywhere. Only understanding, respect, adaptation, and tolerance can solve the conflicts in between. Toula and Ian, orange and apple, their combination is a golden example! 应我们英语老师要求写的review

在这部影片中，浪漫喜剧融入了民族文化冲突的格局，体现了希腊传统文化与美国文化的差异与同化。我想从以下几个方面谈谈电影中的文化现象: 1. 首先，最明显的文化差异是家庭制度。 女主人公Toula的家庭人口众多，包括几代的兄弟姐妹，这就是我们所说的跨文化交际中的“大家庭”。在希腊家庭结构中，小家庭和大家庭保持着密切的关系。 相比之下，男主人公Lan则是一个典型的美国家庭，与父母和孩子生活在一起。这就是我们所说的“核心家庭”，它属于家庭系统的微观层次。 家庭是社会的细胞。从一个家庭的角度，我们可以看到古希腊民族在欧洲文化圈的独特性。 2. 此外，家庭观念的差异也体现在家庭成员之间的关系上，体现在不同层次的“权力距离”上。图Toula的父亲在影片中拥有绝对的权力。例如，Toula的父亲不仅要为女儿的婚姻负责，还要为Toula学习计算机并在旅行社工作的决定负责。这些都反映了希腊家庭关系中长者的权威和希腊社会中较高的“权力距离”。 相反，在美国。约会和婚姻完全是个人的事情，父母不会干涉。Lan生活中的大事，从恋爱到结婚，甚至是皈依东正教会，都是由兰一个人决定的，不需要征得父母的同意，这说明美国家庭的“权力距离”很低。 从文化价值的维度来看，电影中出现的这种文化现象也被称为个人主义和集体主义。希腊是典型的集体主义国家，美国是个人主义的代表。 3.最后，电影中有很多文化差异，比如希腊宗教和美国基督教之间的差异。但我认为这部电影的主要目的不是向观众展示这些文化差异。相反，它是为了展示两种文化是如何融合的，即“文化适应”。 在影片中，跨文化交流的主要障碍是“民族中心主义”，即人们会根据自己的文化观念和标准来衡量不同文化中的一切行为和价值观。 当Toula的父亲来到美国时，在美国，他不让他的孩子上美国的学校。他试图阻止两种文化之间的碰撞，以保持希腊文化的“纯洁性”，这反映出希腊人的“不确定性规避”是非常高的。相比之下，Lan的家庭对希腊文化持开放态度，“不确定性规避”水平较低。因此，Toula勇敢地走出了相对封闭的希腊家庭。通过相互理解，两家逐渐减少了矛盾，两种文化交融。 这部片子通过幽默的表演向我们展示了矛盾的外国家庭是如何走向和谐共存的。正如电影的结局所暗示的那样，无论两种文化有多么的不同，融合都是必然的趋势。

My family is big and loud but they're my family.

我的家庭成员众多并且拥挤，但是他们是我的家人。

We fight and we laugh and yes, we roast lamb on a spit in the front yard.

我们争吵，大笑然后妥协，我们在院子里烧烤。

And where ever I go, what ever I do they will always be there。

无论我去了哪，无论我做了什么，他们永远在我身边。

我不想深入地谈多么美好一见钟情的爱情，只就前面半段剧情谈谈自己的看法。在电影的一开始女孩自白：她的爸爸说一个好的希腊姑娘要做的三件事嫁个希腊人生个希腊小孩和煮饭煮到老死；当她问她的妈妈为什么要学习希腊语的时候，她妈妈告诉她为了以后给她的婆婆写信；当她遇到爱情像父亲提出想回到学校继续学习，她的父亲告诉她你应该结婚“you look so old”。仿佛一切都是为了婚姻组建家庭，我觉得这很可笑。

适婚的年龄不结婚是不是一件可悲的事情？说实话我到现在都难以想象以后的生活里要多一群人来捆绑我的生活瓜分我的时间。夫妻间会吵架，小孩子更需要花大量的时间调教，必要的时候还要和对方的父母处理好关系，到最后你会发现自己忙到焦头烂额没有自我，这比不结婚更可悲。

在这部影片中，父母对待儿子的态度和对女儿完全截然不同，这也反映出女性的社会地位和社会作用。为什么女孩子到了一定的年纪还没结婚父母就会觉得这是一件很羞耻为难的事情，而男生不会。女性能不能完全生活独立和经济独立，我觉得完全可以，所以根本没必要适婚的年纪强迫或者被强迫的去谈婚论嫁。

当然我觉得为了爱人改头换面重塑自己也是没有必要的，爱自己就应该在平时独处的时间就好好打理自己，为爱改变自己取悦对方也没什么必要